China Love. Wo Ai Ni.

I often find myself in a social environment wondering, "Why do the Chinese always look bored?"  Sitting around a table,  not talking,  they have their phones out or are playing the dice game,  always looking over their shoulder at others or just... sitting.

Whatever happened to conversations?  I'm sure its not just the chinese,  technology has stunted our abilities to have face to face conversations with real humans.  Yet I am amazed at how awkward the younger generations are around each other here.  I've asked a few people about it and have come to find that its just different.  

A few of my Chinese friends have tried to explain to me how it works.  You see,  if a Chinese boy wants to talk to a Chinese girl,  he goes to one of her group outings with her friends.  KTV for example,  there they can interact in a social group.  Or if he is brave,  he will go up to her and say something along the lines of  "you look like someone i know..."  (idk,  its the pick up line my chinese friend used to exemplify).  So there you go.  Different then the guy from the US that will ask you out to dinner,  but gets the job done.   

Its a culture where you don't have your first relationship until college and then you hope that that person is rich because you need to find someone who will give you a home and car and one chinese baby for your little chinese family,  preferably a boy.